~Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Things I learned while planning a wedding:

  • is my new best friend and single-handedly the website I used the most. Partial address? ! Don't know whether Great Uncle Al is an Alan, Albert, or Alfonso? ! for everything!
  • I had really good experiences with the following websites:,,,, and
  • I would not use again. I made a last-minute decision and switched our wedding invitations to Mixbook because it was a $200 difference. The invitations were okay, but they printed their company logo on the back of all of the invitations and response cards. That is not the time or place to advertise. I eventually felt so much remorse over the invitations that I went back to the original website ( and bought a handful of the original invitations I had chosen. No logos were on the back.

I think my biggest mistake was caring too much about what other people thought. Abe's ex-roommate planned her entire wedding within a week and didn't ask for anybody's opinion, including her fiance's. Meanwhile I didn't make a single choice without running it by three people, and Abraham was unexpectedly opinionated. It was helpful when I was just starting out and had no idea how what kind of wedding we could have, but by the time the wedding was planned and people were still telling me what to do--that got really frustrating really quickly.

I've had anxiety nightmares every night. Never about the man, only about the wedding. Sometimes things go horribly wrong: no kiddush cups to drink the wine, someone bought red wine instead of white (what if it stains my dress?). Sometimes I get up to the alter and I realize I'm standing next to an ex-boyfriend, and I tell my dad, I'm sorry, but I'm canceling this $25,000 party.


  1. if it helps, i didn't notice that logo at all. and i'm SUPER EXCITED!

  2. My (now) hubby was surprisingly opinionated as well. Funny what they give a shit about, right?

    We used Vistaprint for all our mailings - StD, invites, thank yous, and loved them all. Even the first batch of invites where I put the wrong date. Whoops.

  3. Only two things matter when it comes to a wedding. The bride's opinion and the groom's opinion. Its them getting married and its their day. Everybody is just there to share it.